diff --git a/src/routes/activitypub/user/mod.rs b/src/routes/activitypub/user/mod.rs
index ca1af86..54387d9 100644
--- a/src/routes/activitypub/user/mod.rs
+++ b/src/routes/activitypub/user/mod.rs
@@ -5,9 +5,9 @@ pub mod outbox;
 pub mod following;
 
 use axum::extract::{Path, Query, State};
-use sea_orm::EntityTrait;
+use sea_orm::{ColumnTrait, EntityTrait, QueryFilter, SelectColumns};
 
-use apb::{ActorMut, Node, ObjectMut};
+use apb::{ActorMut, CollectionMut, Node, Object, ObjectMut};
 use crate::{errors::UpubError, model::{self, user}, server::{auth::AuthIdentity, fetcher::Fetcher, Context}, url};
 
 use super::{jsonld::LD, JsonLD, TryFetch};
@@ -32,18 +32,48 @@ pub async fn view(
 		.one(ctx.db()).await?
 	{
 		// local user
-		Some((user, Some(cfg))) => {
-			let mut user = user.ap()
+		Some((user_model, Some(cfg))) => {
+			let mut user = user_model.ap()
 				.set_inbox(Node::link(url!(ctx, "/users/{id}/inbox")))
 				.set_outbox(Node::link(url!(ctx, "/users/{id}/outbox")))
 				.set_following(Node::link(url!(ctx, "/users/{id}/following")))
 				.set_followers(Node::link(url!(ctx, "/users/{id}/followers")));
 
-			if !cfg.show_followers_count {
+			// TODO maybe this thing could be made as a single join, to avoid triple db roundtrip for
+			// each fetch made by local users? it's indexed and fast but still...
+			if let Some(my_id) = auth.my_id() {
+				if !auth.is(&uid) {
+					let followed_by_me = model::relation::Entity::find()
+						.filter(model::relation::Column::Follower.eq(my_id))
+						.filter(model::relation::Column::Following.eq(&uid))
+						.select_column(model::relation::Column::Follower)
+						.into_tuple::<String>()
+						.all(ctx.db())
+						.await?;
+
+					user
+						.audience()
+						.update(|x| x.set_ordered_items(apb::Node::links(followed_by_me)));
+
+					let following_me = model::relation::Entity::find()
+						.filter(model::relation::Column::Following.eq(my_id))
+						.filter(model::relation::Column::Follower.eq(&uid))
+						.select_column(model::relation::Column::Following)
+						.into_tuple::<String>()
+						.all(ctx.db())
+						.await?;
+					
+					user
+						.generator()
+						.update(|x| x.set_ordered_items(apb::Node::links(following_me)));
+				}
+			}
+
+			if !auth.is(&uid) && !cfg.show_followers_count {
 				user = user.set_audience(apb::Node::Empty);
 			}
 
-			if !cfg.show_following_count {
+			if !auth.is(&uid) && !cfg.show_following_count {
 				user = user.set_generator(apb::Node::Empty);
 			}