diff --git a/upub/core/src/model/object.rs b/upub/core/src/model/object.rs
index e764d2e..bf5e045 100644
--- a/upub/core/src/model/object.rs
+++ b/upub/core/src/model/object.rs
@@ -1,4 +1,4 @@
-use apb::{BaseMut, CollectionMut, DocumentMut, Object, ObjectMut, ObjectType};
+use apb::{BaseMut, CollectionMut, DocumentMut, ObjectMut, ObjectType};
 use sea_orm::{entity::prelude::*, QuerySelect, SelectColumns};
 
 use crate::ext::JsonVec;
diff --git a/upub/routes/src/activitypub/application.rs b/upub/routes/src/activitypub/application.rs
index 175b2c5..9d5eb99 100644
--- a/upub/routes/src/activitypub/application.rs
+++ b/upub/routes/src/activitypub/application.rs
@@ -4,7 +4,7 @@ use reqwest::Method;
 use sea_orm::{Condition, ColumnTrait};
 use upub::{traits::{Cloaker, Fetcher}, Context};
 
-use crate::{builders::JsonLD, ApiError, AuthIdentity, Identity};
+use crate::{builders::JsonLD, ApiError, AuthIdentity};
 
 use super::{PaginatedSearch, Pagination};
 
@@ -56,9 +56,11 @@ pub async fn search(
 		.add(upub::model::object::Column::Content.like(format!("%{}%", page.q)));
 
 	// TODO lmao rethink this all
+	//      still haven't redone this gg me
 	let page = Pagination {
 		offset: page.offset,
 		batch: page.batch,
+		replies: Some(true),
 	};
 
 	crate::builders::paginate_feed(
diff --git a/upub/routes/src/activitypub/mod.rs b/upub/routes/src/activitypub/mod.rs
index ee2cfc2..1aba26e 100644
--- a/upub/routes/src/activitypub/mod.rs
+++ b/upub/routes/src/activitypub/mod.rs
@@ -90,6 +90,7 @@ pub struct TryFetch {
 pub struct Pagination {
 	pub offset: Option<u64>,
 	pub batch: Option<u64>,
+	pub replies: Option<bool>,
 }
 
 #[derive(Debug, serde::Deserialize)]
diff --git a/upub/routes/src/activitypub/object/replies.rs b/upub/routes/src/activitypub/object/replies.rs
index cc5cb44..7a415ed 100644
--- a/upub/routes/src/activitypub/object/replies.rs
+++ b/upub/routes/src/activitypub/object/replies.rs
@@ -38,12 +38,15 @@ pub async fn get(
 pub async fn page(
 	State(ctx): State<Context>,
 	Path(id): Path<String>,
-	Query(page): Query<Pagination>,
+	Query(mut page): Query<Pagination>,
 	AuthIdentity(auth): AuthIdentity,
 ) -> crate::ApiResult<JsonLD<serde_json::Value>> {
 	let page_id = upub::url!(ctx, "/objects/{id}/replies/page");
 	let oid = ctx.oid(&id);
 
+	// TODO kinda weird ignoring this but its weirder to exclude replies from replies view...
+	page.replies = Some(true);
+
 	crate::builders::paginate_feed(
 		page_id,
 		Condition::all()
diff --git a/upub/routes/src/builders.rs b/upub/routes/src/builders.rs
index 85ffe90..51be453 100644
--- a/upub/routes/src/builders.rs
+++ b/upub/routes/src/builders.rs
@@ -1,5 +1,5 @@
 use apb::{BaseMut, CollectionMut, CollectionPageMut, LD};
-use sea_orm::{Condition, ConnectionTrait, QueryFilter, QuerySelect, RelationTrait};
+use sea_orm::{Condition, ConnectionTrait, QueryFilter, QuerySelect, RelationTrait, ColumnTrait};
 use axum::response::{IntoResponse, Response};
 use upub::selector::{BatchFillable, RichActivity};
 
@@ -17,6 +17,14 @@ pub async fn paginate_feed(
 	let limit = page.batch.unwrap_or(20).min(50);
 	let offset = page.offset.unwrap_or(0);
 
+	let mut conditions = Condition::all()
+		.add(filter);
+
+	// by default we want replies because servers don't know about our api and want everything
+	if !page.replies.unwrap_or(true) {
+		conditions = conditions.add(upub::model::object::Column::InReplyTo.is_null());
+	}
+
 	let mut select = upub::Query::feed(my_id);
 
 	if with_users {
@@ -25,7 +33,7 @@ pub async fn paginate_feed(
 	}
 
 	let items = select
-		.filter(filter)
+		.filter(conditions)
 		// TODO also limit to only local activities
 		.limit(limit)
 		.offset(offset)